Are you experiencing challenges in communication, intimacy, or connection with your partner? Do you often feel like you’re living separate lives, focusing on career, projects, or family in a way that feels disconnected from what your relationship used to feel like? Perhaps the feeling that everything else takes precedent in your partner’s life over you comes into your mind with regularity. Do arguments happen in the same way, again and again without resolution? Can you think of certain conversations that are becoming avoided territory for fear of a fight ensuing?

When our primary relationship is suffering, this can be a lonely, discouraging, and painful experience. Remembering the former joyful, inspiring, and intimate relationship, you may notice a relationship now that feels different; imbalanced, dull, and resentful. You may experience misunderstanding or feel a lack of care by your partner, or conversely, frustrated, angry and smothered. You may greatly want to reestablish this important connection with your partner, but don’t know the way, or if it’s even repairable. 

The truth is, the knowledge behind really healthy, loving, long-term relationships is one very few of us know. For most of us, our parents did not have the tools themselves to model healthy relationships, and as a byproduct, we also were not taught how to effectively express our feelings, resolve conflicts, or communicate our needs. In a certain sense, many of us are like young children trying to understand how to maintain healthy relationships.

In our couple’s sessions, I will hold a grounded, non-judgemental space for you to explore the challenging feelings, ideas, and patterns. Regardless of how difficult things may be right now, there is hope. With support, the right couples counseling approach, and the willingness to honestly explore your relationship, you and your partner can rebuild trust, repair the damage to your relationship, strengthen your connection and enjoy more intimacy.

I welcome relational configurations of all kinds, including consensual non-monogamy and polyamorous relationships.